Valentine’s Day can be the. Worst. Day. Ever. Grand gestures and romance; big expectations, big disappointments. Agh!
Wait wait, hold it right there! Poor ol' St. Valentine – his fame totally got ahead of him and now everyone's on the hype train. But let's be still and distill for a minute, don't forget what the day of love is actually all about – LOVE! Connection, intimacy, conversation, laughter. All the feels.
So if you want to do a bit more than Netflix and chill, here are some ideas to up your date game for the night, whether you’re taking all the safety precautions and staying at home, or wandering out into the city.
Leave home before sunrise and find an already bustling area. Maybe a flower market or a fish market, they're usually already up and at 'em before dawn and being amongst the buzz can give you a different kind of positive energy that lasts throughout the day. Or if the city is still asleep, hold hands and wander the streets. The city is yours!
This gentle stone is as calming as it looks. Danburite's power lies in its ability to stabilize emotions, perfect for Valentine’s Day, a day of reflections on the relationships you cherish the most.
Conversely, you may also stay up really late.
Weird and wonderful things tend to happen in the wee hours after midnight. Magical things. Precious things. Snuggle under the blanket while watching and listening to Fran Lebowitz’s razor-sharp wit and life wisdom in Pretend It’s a City, read to each other from the pages of timeless classics such as Carl Sagan’s timeless love-letter to the Universe, or savor on some delicious conversations, which brings us to the next idea...
Questions to go down the rabbit hole of vulnerability and intimacy.
Try 36 questions that lead to love.
If you crave for something a bit more daring, try this: 36 questions that can make anyone fall in love. In 2015, The New York Times posted a story on two strangers who did this experiment and got married six months later. These 36 questions get incredibly personal, uncomfortably personal, refreshingly personal, wonderfully personal. So see how you go. Trust and be vulnerable. Buckle up and enjoy the ride.
There’s nothing more romantic than spending an entire day in a pool. Whether you’re choosing a quiet pool with lush garden view or a party-pool with a full-bar ready to serve pretty-looking cocktails, you’re in for too-much-fun! Feel the sun, sweat some, and soak in the love.
Salt and pepper diamonds - the symbol of love in its most natural form! For a celebration of love at its most raw and untamed state, this ring is a fitting symbol.
Book a hotel room or B&B,
even in the same city. The different atmosphere will entice a different kind of romantic mood. And for those who are feeling adventurous, this is one way to spice things up while still feeling cozy underneath the sheets. Take it further by having it as a surprise for your loved one!
Raw and rough, opal is the perfect accompaniment for the night.
Most massages go unplanned. They are small encouragements to your loved one for those late meetings and midnight works. And though that is sweet, but let’s be honest – a nice whole-hour massage doesn’t hurt either! Do a little bit of research on how to do proper massage (your partner will appreciate this), then pick a sweet fragrance you both will love!
Citrine brings the joyous side of you and amplify it tenfold. She's a happy stone - the gem for creators.
Work on a project.
If you’re crafty or a creative and love a dash of planning ahead, then working on a project together will be a great way to know each other better and more intimately. Are you a photographer and he’s a writer? Do a small themed zine together. Are you both great cooks? Do a small competition and document the moments. Love nature? Go RV-ing. There's so much fun to be had.
Or how about a weekend workshop? My tips: a tantra workshop (no awkward nakedness here), authentic relating workshop (to connect more intimately and courageously), contact improv (explore connection with others through playful touch), acro yoga, or something more creative like pottery, candle making or natural dyes.
Leave home before the day is warm and hit off the road for nearby city. Prepare some snacks for the trip, but leave detailed to-do list plan at home. Resist checking constantly on Google Maps or online recommendations for your lunch, unless they are urgent. Look around, embrace the feeling of becoming strangers, and enjoy the moments of spontaneity. Getting lost together can be so much fun.
A wisdom stone, turquoise has been all around the world and back in search of truth.
Finish off the night by reading each other poetry.
Whether it's poetry written by you, Rumi, or Kahlil Gibran, enjoy the slowness of time intertwined within each line in a poetry - a surefire way to ignite the light within!
Whether you’re choosing to stay low at home or venturing out to town with all the safety precautions (for COVID19 I mean), a special something something shouldn’t hurt.